I am way too much in the middle of this to write about it! But...we dropped Zach off last week and I promised an "I'll keep you posted." So here is an honest look at what this is looking like. I am very, very thankful that Brian and I had fun together, hung out every Friday and went out of town together so many times or we would probably not know each other. We have worked really hard and anticipated that, from all we had heard, having an empty nest would be more difficult than we expected. It is. I think that the closer you are to your kids, the more difficult it is. Our boys love hanging out with us. Probably our greatest compliment ever. And we are crazy about them. We laugh and have a great time together almost every night, so the quiet is really weird. Also, I did not realize how not having the boys here would affect Brian. His man world is gone and he has to be fun and talk sports stats on FaceTime. So thankful for FaceTime.
Secondly, we went to the grocery store together for just us. First time in twenty-one years. Crazy! We bought two hamburger patties. We ordered a small pizza and didn't finish it.
People experience emotions differently and walk paths together, yet separately. I am learning to be quiet and think about how to explain how I feel, first to myself and to God, and then to Brian. It is sort of fun to experience something new together. It is also OK NOT to be sad about your (empty) nest. It is sad, sometimes, but it is great! When you spend years and years focusing on your kids, it is a good and healthy thing to focus on your marriage and on yourself (and your dog.) God's plan for our kids is that they grow and mature and are able to make decisions for themselves. After so much prayer, especially for both boys' back injuries in the last three years, I am so thankful that God has blessed our boys with the opportunity to leave home and be trained to do what God is calling them to do. How could I not celebrate that?!
So, now, here we go! We have a packed, busy schedule! I'm excited. In fact I do not think that I have ever been bored a day in my life, so I do not expect to be bored now. I have way too much to do....and plans to see those boys! Soon! But until then, we will order small pizzas.
"For everything there is a season, a time for every activity under heaven." Ecclesiastes 3:1